How to wear a shawl or stole

Monday, February 12th 2024
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A shawl (or stole) can be a really practical thing to wear. Simply hung round the neck, it’s a lovely layer of warmth down the front of the body and on the back of the neck. And when looped or tied, it’s also effective protection against the cold wind. 

I often wear them with my PS Donegal coats (above), as their length suits the long lines of that balmacaan style. But they can work with any type of coat, and are particularly useful when travelling, as we detailed in our recent article on Paris

Men sometimes find them difficult to wear, though, especially when they are required to wrap the thing. A shawl is quite bulky, and it can feel messy and difficult to control. 

(There’s an interesting side topic here actually, about the link between men that are into classic clothing are those that are naturally fussy, even obsessive. Waistcoats and ties and oxfords feel neat and controllable; shawls do not. A subject for another day perhaps.)  

In today’s piece, I’m going to quickly set out quickly how I wear a shawl, and suggest how it can be done with control and even nonchalance.

Most shawls are long enough to wrap around the neck and leave a good amount hanging either end. This old one from Begg & Co of mine does that, measuring 183x73cm. 

So start with the shawl hanging shorter on one side, as in the image above. What that length should be becomes quickly instinctive, but as with everything here, precision doesn’t matter that much. In fact it should be actively avoided. 

Then take the long end (that’s the end I’m holding - the photo is a little unclear) and wrap it loosely around the neck. 

Don’t do it too tightly - not as tight as you might wrap a regular scarf - as the thickness can make it uncomfortable, and again it could stop looking nice and loose and easy.

A good tip here is to hold the corner of the shawl as you wrap it, rather than the whole end. I’m demonstrating, or trying to demonstrate, this in the image above. It’s not helped by the fact that Lucas is laughing off camera, and I’m trying not to smile. 

Anyway, the point of this is that it makes the width of the shawl spread out across your back and the shoulders. The shawl is also not as thick, it covers more of the upper body, and it looks less considered. 

The biggest problem with shawls comes at this point, when you have two ends hanging down on the chest. They feel messy, out of control, and can easily get blown around. There is an urge to tie or otherwise secure them. 

The best solution with a coat is to push one of the ends inside the front, as I’m doing above. This keeps it under control and stops if flapping about. Note the fringe is showing because I’m holding only the corner. 

Then, I like to tuck the other end inside the front edge of the coat too, as shown above. Not pushing it, just lying it inside that front edge. It gives a modicum more control. 

You can try this once or twice in the mirror if you want but, when you’re out and about, resist the urge to play or adjust or even look in a car window. Just let it be. The danger of looking too neat is great than looking too messy. Have a play, have fun, but do not fiddle. 

When I’m on the Tube, my shawl is normally hanging loose around my neck, coat open. Then when I emerge into the biting cold (or am going to emerge), one end is pulled longer, a corner held, the thing wrapped around and tucked. 

Easy, simple and (literally) without a second thought. I know you care (you're a PS reader after all), but try very much not to. 

I’ve included a few other images here of shawls other than the toffee-coloured Begg one. Begg does still sell that style, but not in the same colour unfortunately. 

My other favourites are from Loro Piana (back in the days when there were big discounts at Bicester Village) and from Anderson & Sheppard. They have a big range of larger scarves though again, unfortunately, not my bright orange one I’ve shown at the top and bottom of this post. They do have the cream above though, which is amazing, although being hand-woven is also proportionately expensive. 

I also wear larger silk/cashmere Hermes shawls in the same way too, like the one below. 

What’s the difference between a shawl, a scarf and a stole I hear you say? Well, shawls are usually heavier and often square (as those Hermes ones are). Stoles are large and rectangular, but also lighter in weight. Scarves are rectangular but can be many sizes. 

As with many things in clothing, there is no clean definition for my Begg one. It’s the weight of a scarf but the shape of a stole, and perhaps looks most like a shawl. It doesn’t matter as long as we all know what we mean. 

For details on the other clothes shown in the main images, see Paris article here

The top image is taken from this outfit shoot on the herringbone Donegal coat.

The Hermes scarf outfit is taken from this post on the brown Donegal coat

The bright orange scarf outfit is in this post on strong colours

The cream shawl outfit is featured in that article too, but morex details can be seen in this post on navy odd trousers.

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Lindsay McKee

I’m afraid that I’ll be going no bigger than The Arran Scarf and in a muted and modest colour.

Stephen

Hi Simon,
Another useful article. In my case I’ve had one for quite a while, which doesn’t get worn very often, for the reasons (although I wasn’t so consciously aware of them, just felt uncomfortable) you state. I’ll give this a try. Another item not wasted. Thanks again

Peter Hall

I agree with those who think they can spoil the lines of classic men’s wear. I like a long scarf which hangs down. When they sit around the neck like an old rose they distract.

Burt

It depends on the weather, no? They’re never out of place when it’s cold outside or when you’re walking or cycling into the city centre. But then you’d typically pair it with a heavy loden or woollen overcoat as shown in the pictures above. I found the article informative, thank you 🙂

Robin

Silly question but for men are shawls advertised as shawls or scarves !? (Excuse my stupidity)

After the last time I raised a question about shawls, several articles ago , I did a search and found references to women’s shawls and nothing for men .

Might I suggest a PS shawl !?

Martins

How about a thin cotton or cotton silk linen one?

Martins

I think I wouldn’t just drape it around shoulders too, but folded in half and french loop, one I got from Zara was my favourite scarf for couple years. Pity it was such a low quality and I can’t find anything like this in nice colours anymore…..

Tom

What are your thoughts on labels/tags on shawls/scarfs/stoles? I see you’ve left them in place on the Begg one above, but I worry (only very slightly, and only when I haven’t got anything better to do) that this can look a bit messy.

JSB

Hi Simon,

I found it really surprising just how much I liked the yellow scarf compared to others shown in the photos of this article.

I have a very old cashmere scarf bought years ago from Aquascutum of all places but it seems to be my default. It is 1.5m long by about 30cm wide which I’ve found perfect for leaving hung around the neck or wrapped around the neck. Doesn’t quite have the shawl effect.

I am in the market for a different colour and the tobacco/coffee colour from Begg looks mighty appealing. The main hold-back are the sizes from Begg, which are different and therefore the styling and how you wear the item.

I digressed quite a bit…the main reason for commenting was that it would be great to see your full collection of Hermes scarfs but more importantly how you choose the style/wear/tie them. I think that would be a great article.

Thanks as always.

Calvin

Very helpful article Simon!
Reading some of the other comments and how your first response to a thin cotton shawl is too feminine reminds me that I wear a gifted shawl just like that to much delight.
But my point in that being that lately I have found myself being drawn to a nice juxtaposition of feminine and masculine clothing items. Perhaps this could be an article – how to do this more often, to have fun with it!
For example, I recently got a pair of dark brown B&L Sagans (wow are they a great shoe). Maybe against popular onion, but the whole slipper aesthetic feels soft / rounded / feminine to me. Regardless, when I pair them with some washed out 90s black levis and a similarly masculine top, they strike an amazing balance! The guys at brycelands do this particularly well with their slippers as well.
Maybe an article to be commissioned if it’s not up your alley. What do you think?